Did you ever just have one of those days, weeks, months and or years where you marvel at the unfairness of your situation? Well, to be truthfully honest it's been one of those days, weeks, months and year for me. For the past solid year I have marveled; more like cursed the unfairness of my situation.
I've reveled in my self pity, milling things over and over in my mind. I ask the same questions I've asked myself a thousand times. "Why did this happen?" "Why did that happen?" "Will it ever get better?" Then I bargain with God for things that are beyond my control. In my arrogance I demand fairness or what I perceive to be fairness. "Wasn't I a loving wife?" "Am I not a good mother?" "Am I not a loyal friend?" "Yes." I decided for myself. "So why my plight?" "Why?"
It is at this point where we find ourselves at the proverbial end of our means. This is the point where we say to ourselves, "Why try?"
And then...
Today I met a woman in a worse predicament than myself. She was not bitter, she was not angry, she was not having a pity party and inviting everyone to join. She was who she is; a hilarious, peace-filled person with a gentle grace. And though her body is frail, her constitution is made of steel. She talked to me and not at me. And when she started to leave she hugged me like she had known me all her life. I was astounded, and somewhat ashamed at being so self absorbed. Sometimes people come along at points in our lives when we need to be jolted into self realization. Sometimes total strangers can make our day and give us that needed hope to sustain us . Each day this woman drags her aching, gnarled body out of bed, puts both feet to the floor and walks into the rest of her life. So can I. So can you. So can the rest of world.
"I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet." Then I learned a lesson.
:)
7 comments:
It's hard to walk a mile in the shoes of the man with no feet...
Ha! You make me laugh Valannin. You're too witty for your own good. If you talk with the same acerbic wit you write with then you probably stay in trouble. ;)
Oh, and by the way, my blog has a name. It's Reality Scorned, not "this person has commented on more articles than anyone else." If I didn't know better I would think that an insult, because it's rather dismissive. If I were so inclined to read between the lines, I would have read: "I'm linking this person, but I'm not endorsing reading her blog...just that she's posted more than anyone else." "I have to placate her somehow."
For the record; I post on blogs that I feel have something to say, such as biting, political, or social commentary. I've chatted with bloggers who are intelligent and artistic and whom I consider my friends even though I've only met one in person. I don't need or want to collect readers, I am truly interested in what these people have to say. Capiche?
But Valannin you're welcome to come and play anytime, and I'm am not offended...SHOULD I BE?
**Grasshopper...you have swam deep in the river of knowledge and are very wise, but you sink like peebles in the stream of tact.** :p
Take care,
Moni
Never judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes. After that, who cares? He's a mile away and you've got his shoes.
Billy Connelly
How could I resist?
Very profound post, Moni. Timely too. ;)
Moni - That was wonderful! What a way to think. I love people who know how to put things in perspective. That's a great attitude to have.
Here's to all the soldiers
Who have ever died in vain
The insane locked up in themselves
The homeless down on Main
For those who stand on empty shores
And spit against the wind
And those who wait forever
For ships that don't come in
Joe Diffie
From memory anyway. It sounds like a song to me.
Whenever my wife gets down, I try to remind her of the same thing. It helps to compare.
McFox-- lol I like Billy Connely, especially when he talks about swimming in the North Sea. Funny Scots...got to love 'em. Thanks. ((hugs))
Zombie--Thanks, sometimes I forget to stop and appreciate what I do have. BTW, I'm glad you're back with your family. Material posessions come and go, but your loved ones are more precious than any of these. ((hugs))
Scott--It is a song. Those lyrics are a true testament to the human condition. Joe Diffie is a talented singer/songwriter. Kudos for picking your wife up when she's down. Always do that because as you know women seem to be the more emotional of the species. lol ((hugs))
And Valannin, my wickedly cranky friend, I don't want you to feel left out so...((hugs)). Now melt! ;p
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