This is something different than what I usually post. I usually keep my posts light, I figure this world is so full of a serious drama that people don't need me bringing them down. But this topic has been on my mind lately, not because I'm enamored by it, but simply because I just don't understand the philosophy of thought behind it.
I don't understand how pleasure is derived from pain. I, of course am talking about the Dominate/submissive(D/s) lifestyle. I'm not trying to judge becuase I do not have the authority to do so. Yet, I've come across some blogs that deal with such a subject. These people seem to lead a very normal life and seem to be highly intelligent but their actions astound me. Oh I'm not naive', I know this sort of stuff goes on, but I had no idea it went way past the bedroom. It is an entire lifestyle. Beyond the bedroom one tells the other when they can eat, when they can shower, when they can urinate, etc...
What in an individual's psyche would allow them only to achieve sexual gratification by being beaten or beating another? I'm not talking about a playful little spank on the rump or, a teasing hair pull. I'm talking about an all out beating. I read this one blog where the submissive was beaten until she was reduced to nothing but snot and tears. The object; as so stated, is not about the dominate one caring for the submissive and attempting to bring them into eurphoric awareness of their inner being. That's a bunch of hooey! It's clearly about exercising absolute power over another human being. And what of the submissive? How do they justify needing a "session"? Do they not think themselves worthy of having a deep physical love that lifts them to another level of consciousness? Pain is not a freeing emotion, it's crushing...it's debilitating. Pain doesn't lift you, it brings you low, it suffocates you.
Physical love, when it's an extention of emotional love can be freeing...love is a "freeing" emotion. Love brings hope...hope allows us to dream. In our dreams we are lifted to a higher place. Pain does not equal love and love does not equal pain. The way I see it, when people delve into such a behavior they degrade the ones who have suffered actual pain. It makes light of anyone in the human race who has ever been crushed, oppressed, enslaved, and in pain beyond that of their own choosing. But it's easier to live that life knowing that at anytime one bores of it, they can stop it. The afore mentioned didn't have that luxury. Again, I'm not judging, what happens between two consenting adults is their business. These are my views on the topic. I guess we really don't have to understand everything that goes on in this world because no matter how we try, we won't.
As vanilla as I want to be,
Moni ;)
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What in an individual's psyche would allow them only to achieve sexual gratification by being beaten or beating another? I'm not talking about a playful little spank on the rump or, a teasing hair pull. I'm talking about an all out beating.
I've seen this in porn and fast forward it immediately. I'm completely turned off by it.
A good friend of mine degraded a woman in a porn movie and showed it to me. I thought it was disgusting. Her fantasy was to be yelled at and verbally degraded until she started crying. So that's what he did.
I neither get it, nor do I try to understand it. I can only tolerate so much diversity and I guess I draw the line somewhere around there. I find it gross and call me close-minded, but I'd rather not waste time trying to psychoanalyze someone who likes being degraded.
For the record, my friend did it for the money. he didn't enjoy doing it.
I wasn't remotely hinting to that fact that anyone who reads my blog regularly would condone that sort of behavior. No references at all to your post on porn. I guess I do have too much time on my hands that I would sit and write about such things.
But I did read some blogs about it(before I read your Porn post), simply because I like exploring the world of blogdom. I just happened to come across them that's all. The post was not meant to condem anyone. I simply found it disturbing. It was an attempt to bring a meatier topic to the table, so to speak. Again, I was just ranting my views. Sometimes I do that.
As for your friend...we sometimes compromise our ethics when we have to put food on our table and pay our mortgage. We are all guilty of it at sometime or other in our lives. Still, I'm not judging. We are all free moral agents. If I have offended anyone, then I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry for writing it. :)
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