Wednesday, September 20, 2006

SWM Seeks Loving Soulmate for a Lifetime of Romance, Moonlit Walks, and Lazy Sunday Afternoons Spent Lying in Bed Reading the Paper.

Yeah right? Bite me! A year ago I was thrust into the world of dating, it's a jungle out there, let me tell you. I had been married a long time and wasn't used to the subtle nuances/lies being spread about like fresh manure on a rose garden. Oh, but I'm getting a crash course in the Dating 101, especially Internet Dating 101. Why is that being on an online dating service makes a person think they have carte blanche to lie, deceive, and downright manipulate such false indentities? Don't they not know that they will be revealed inevitably? I just don't get it.

I've been on a particular dating service for about 4 months now and so far I've met a man who said he was former CIA, made a million dollars before the age of 30, and could find me, and kill me and no one would ever know. (please?!) Oh yeah, and he was taught how to cook by French mercenaries. I met one guy who I upset to the point that now he's not going to talk to me anymore, because he said I liked to play games and for the life of me I don't what I said, or did to allow him to draw that conclusion. I met a man who was clean cut, cute and intelligent, turns out he only wanted cybersex; which, by-the-way is what a lot of them want.

I think men don't know what they want(with the exclusion of the guys who read my blog...maybe), but it's true. You're a mystery wrapped in an enigma, served up on a plate of indicsion and washed down with a big glass of confusion. Or maybe it's just me. :)

If you're reading my blog and you've got a significant other, someone who rocks your world, then hold on to them with all your might, because it's freaky out here.


Take care,
Moni ;)

8 comments:

Scott said...

I totally feel for you Moni. If I had a great answer for you, I would certainly offer it up. For certain, I would say to keep trying, but don't get too wrapped up in expectation. Try to have some fun with it, and don't look back when the freaks happen along. Still, I can't believe that some of these guys sell such bullshit.

This is easier said than done, but do something interesting to you. A hobby that gets you out of the house. Simply being visible to the outside world increases the odds of being spotted. Work sorta counts if its a big company or deals with customers. Church ought to be a good place for that, but who knows. I got to a point where I was doing what I wanted to do, instead of going to bars and following traditional routes. Make yourself happy. If you don't know how, then that's where you need to start. Believe me, when a busy woman (at something she loves to do) is very attractive.

Moni said...

Thanks for your words of wisdom Scott, I really apprecaite them coming from a male perspective. :)

Unfortunately, I live in a very small town, not a lot of prospects here. lol I don't have any friends to hang out with here. I've tried to make friends, but everyone seems to be paired up like they're about to board Noah's Ark or something.

As far as meeting someone at church, not the one I go to. Not a single man over the age of 18...babies. And work well, I might be too picky, but I don't want a pompous a-hole doc, male nurses always have something to prove, and male RT's have to compete. Maybe I'm in the wrong field. lol

I know I just sounded like I'm having a great big pity party. I do get what you're saying. I should try to be happy and let things happen naturally. And when I'm happy, others will want to be around me.

Thanks Scott, you're like a pillar of reason. :)

d~ said...

My healthy level of misanthropy tends to keep me away from "dating (insert medium here). However, my brother met his partner through one of the internet dating services and is very happy. There are successful ones out there. You'll meet someone. Oh...and the size of the place one lives in does not dictate the kind or amount of pickin's lol I live in a decent sized locale and there isn't much to choose from either.
Despite having said all that, I do believe there is someone for everyone out there.

Moni said...

Drokka--I think I should like to visit you in the Great White North. We can have a girls night out, a Loon Moot? lol :)

I'm glad your brother found someone on an online dating service, I'm glad to see it works for somebody.

d~ said...

I suggest coming anytime but the winter..unless you carry a shovel with you all the time *lol*

Scott said...

Hi Moni,

Thanks for all the kind words. I'm doing ok now. I was in the grip of the trip so to speak, and am starting to come down a little.

About those internet dating services, I know for sure it works for some people. The couple next door to me met that way, and so did one of my good friends. Be honest about who you are when you post a profile. You need to match up on the important things, not on things you are trying to be in order to be more attractive. Don't say, for instance, that you like sky diving if it would frighten you to try. That kind of thing. You should meet someone musically inclined I think, and someone serious about his faith.

Blue Skies said...

Hi Moni,

Sorry for my late comments.

Don't deliberately go seeking. Just go on with your life normally. Enrich your life by doing activities that challenge you intellectually and physically. The right person will come at the right time when you least expect it.

Have a great week ahead.

Moni said...

Blue--Thanks for the advice. You have a good week too.